Dating again after a break up
We long for those butterfly feelings, the giddy excitement of feeling desire and being desirable. For some, a breakup may trigger powerful fears of never finding that special someone to build a life with.It may lead to feelings of urgency: if I wait too long, what if all the good ones are taken?“…don’t kill me, but I’ve got two Match dates lined up this week…” (cue my loud sighing) We all know deep down that dating too soon after a breakup is a bad idea. The pain of a broken heart activates the same parts of the brain as clinical depression.It causes us real, physical suffering that can last weeks or months, and the lure of new romantic love is one of the strongest antidotes.
Match dating expert Kate Taylor believes our lack of relationship skills is to blame: "We all receive endless advice these days on dating and marriage, but very little on the in-between stages of a relationship," she explains.
” which is quickly followed by “how soon can I get back out there?
” Knowing my stance on giving yourself enough time to heal from heartbreak, my newly-single friends will often shy away from telling me they’ve begun dating again.
” One week for every year of the relationship is one of the most common healing time prescriptions.
But I promise, there is no magic formula that will guarantee when you will be ready to open up your heart to someone new.