Tips for a white girl dating a black guy
After listening to his tried pick up line in American-accented Portuguese, I cut him off and bluntly asked him in English where he was from.Shocked, he laughed and said, “I totally thought you were Brasilian.” He wouldn’t be the first to make the assumption.So when we hung out, all of the sudden our platonic friendship transformed into a prospect, even though it had likely already been a prospect for him months back.I was sick, blowing my runny nose, and coughing, but he still wrapped his arms around me, made me tea, and made sure I was comfortable in his home.
But it did make me reflect on why I had limited myself for so long to just having sex and dating Black men or never challenging the popular stereotypes.
The man who wrote this to me is in his forties and gorgeous.
He very much keeps himself in shape and is committed to a healthy lifestyle.
What followed was a “first” to remember, as we took our time kissing and exploring each other’s bodies for the first time.
While I know I wasn’t the first black woman he ever had sex with, he was the first White American that I had ever let into such an intimate space.