True stories dating abuse
Maybe you're worried your friends will take his side.Or maybe you're not certain if an incident is even reportable."I just wanted to forget the whole thing happened," she admits.Looking back, Ali says, there were signs that the relationship was unhealthy, even though it wasn't romantic. She notes, "I thought he was just a needy friend, but now I recognize his behaviors as controlling and manipulative." Ali says that when he continued to harass her after the incident—constant texting, asking to see her—she decided to go to the police.In fact, a recent study from the Center for Innovative Public Health Research reveals that two in five girls between the ages of 14 and 20 have experienced physical, sexual, or psychological/emotional violence from someone they've dated.And according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 1 in 10 high schoolers has been purposely hit, slapped, or physically hurt by a boyfriend or a girlfriend (because, yes, girls can be the abusers, too).Maybe he grabbed your wrist too hard or insisted you have sex even though you didn't feel like it.
"I thought a fight wasn't worth it," she says."Your whole life revolves around this person, and both sides are doing what they think they need to do in order to make the relationship work," says Stephanie Mihalas, Ph. This is how many teens end up letting a troubling episode go unchecked.You might make excuses or blame yourself—he didn't mean it, I don't want him to get into trouble, I provoked him.She was also afraid of what other people would say.Would they believe Ali hadn't "asked for it," as her friend said she had?