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And the other person, likewise, has to reciprocate, revealing personal, private things about him/herself.But, and here's the tricky part, reveal too much too soon, or reveal the wrong types of things, and you run the risk of scaring the other, or overwhelming them with too much information. Self-disclosure involves revealing personal details about ourselves, our past, our thoughts, our feelings, or any other information which makes us "knowable" to another. People we know on a casual level, we tend to communicate with on a casual level.Medium-risk disclosures - such as the fact that you're not very athletic and never were any good at sports.And high-risk disclosures - such as the fact that you were abused as a child and spent several years in therapy as a result.
If you tell a girl about your dog, your degree of vulnerability is low.
Outwardly he seems charming, charismatic, and confident.
But the dates are usually duds, and the second and third dates rarely come, because he can't seem to create the "intimacy" necessary to BOND the relationship.
No doubt at some point you've met someone who, for some strange reason, decided to tell you his life story. Not only that, but revealing ourselves to others is, in itself, extremely risky. Disclosing involves openness, a desire to get closer to another, and an implied trust in the person we're revealing ourselves to. But disclosing IS one of the defining characteristics of friends and lovers.
Including all kinds of personal, intimate details you wished he had kept to himself. When we reveal, we display our private selves, our private lives, our private thoughts and feelings for others to evaluate and judge. Without an ample dose of healthy self-disclosure, there can be no intimacy.